Sending Cards to Someone Who is Very Ill - What Can You Say?

Sending cards is the first thing we think of when wewellness and just the smell of it will lift spirits and the
hear that a friend is not too well, we choose somethingscent will waft from a bedside cabinet.. Avoid the
we think they will like and scribble a funny messageready printed Get Well Soon cards as the sentiment
inside and we're done, one friend cheered up. Whatmight be out of place at this time.
happens though when the illness is not just a passingThen we come to the message, what to say? The
bug, but one of the worst kinds to befall us, yes I meaneasiest thing to do is to imagine your friend in front of
cancer. We all know that nowadays this is notyou, what do you want to say to them? Write it down
necessarily the death sentence it once was but thereon a piece of paper. Then consider words like: I was
is no getting away from it, this is a serious situation.really sorry to hear about your illness or if both of you
So not only does the choice of the card itself becomehave a faith, then offer your prayers. Or if you don't,
important, what you write inside it looms as anthen say how much you are thinking of them and
impossible task. Words come and are dismissed asmaybe, visualising them strong and well. You could ask
flippant, too sad, or maybe no words at all come into- Do you feel like eating? I could bring something you
your head and you feel stuck. Take heart, you canlike. Stick to a positive line with words like - when you
make a difference to your friend, even though youfeel strong enough we can walk together or you have
can't change the situation you can write words that willnever been beaten yet my dear friend. Write of a
show how you really feel and that will encourage,good time you spent together and say you will do it
cheer and help in very many ways.again. Then choose the best of what you have
First the choice of card, do keep away from thewritten.
'funny' ones, apart from the fact that we all thinkThe main thing of course is that you don't chicken out
different things are funny, this is not the time for jokes.and not send a card at all, that is hurtful and you will
Choose something instead that is beautiful, calming andregret not doing what you can to offer your love, care
inspirational, there are some lavender scented cardsand positive thoughts to the person you love while you
around that are perfect, lavender is the herb ofcan. Do take courage and write from your heart.